Shacking Up: The Stupid
Girl's Guide to
Living in Sin Without Getting Burned
by David J. Stewart | September 2018
Colossians 3:5-6, “Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience.”
I ran across the title of a horrible book today while doing some research on the internet. The 320-page book was written in 2003 by Stacy and Wynne Whitman, called, “Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned.” After I learned what the book was about I properly renamed it to, “Shacking Up: The Stupid Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned.” I kindly say “stupid” for several reasons, which I would like to share with you in this important article, particularly you young ladies, to whom the ungodly book “Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned” is sinfully directed.
First let me confidently say my friend that,
You WILL GET BURNED if you sin! Stacy and Wynne Whitman, the authors of this awful book, on how to fornicate without getting burned, is a false claim! Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Marriage is not just the old-fashioned way, it is the RIGHT WAY!!! Sin thrills and then it kills! Sin fascinates and then it assassinates! SIN WILL DESTROY YOUR LIFE!
Jeremiah 2:19, “Thine own wickedness shall correct thee, and thy backslidings shall reprove thee: know therefore and see that it is an evil thing and bitter, that thou hast forsaken the LORD thy God, and that my fear is not in thee, saith the Lord GOD of hosts.” God often chastises us as believers by giving us enough rope to hang ourselves. That is, He lets us suffer because of our sins, and that teaches us a lesson! David found this truth out the hard way, which is why he said in Psalms 119:67 and 71, “Before I was afflicted I went astray: but now have I kept thy word. ... It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes.” Yea buddy! There is no such thing as “white sin,” which Evangelist Ray Comfort mentions in his infamous “The Evidence Bible,” which teaches false repentance for salvation in his commentary of Matthew 7:21-23.
In America today, we congratulate people for having bastard children! I say that, not to be mean, but to emphasize the desperate need for hard preaching today. Hollywood and television are doing everything possible to desensitize people to the awfulness of sin! Any loving pastor will teach young women to remain a virgin until they get legally married. Walt Disney teaches boys to “score” in “The Life Of Zach” and other perverse programs. Many people do not realize that Walt Disney is an empire of sleaze!
Here is a description given about the book, “Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned”...
ABOUT SHACKING UP
...Whether you opt for wedding bells or decide he’s not the one for you, Shacking Up is a stylish, empowering handbook for staying smart, savvy, and true to yourself along the road to happily ever after.
What an evil thing to say and promote! The authors of the book clearly do not fear God. Psalms 36:1, “The transgression of the wicked saith within my heart, that there is no fear of God before his eyes.” Romans 3:18, “There is no fear of God before their eyes.” Shacking up is not a viable option!!! No one can live in sexual immorality and be pleasing to the Lord. Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” God honors marriage! You can be saved and still live in sin, certainly, because we are redeemed by God's grace and not by our own self-righteousness. Ephesians 2:8-9, “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” And a good thing, because even the most morally upright and honorable church member is still a dirty, rotten, corrupt, sinner! The ONLY difference between a born-again Christian, and an unsaved proud homosexual like singer Elton John is the precious blood of the Lord Jesus Christ that washed our sins away (1st Peter 1:18-19; 1st John 1:7; Revelation 1:5).
Granted, that doesn't give any child of God the Lord's permission to continue living in willful sin. Romans 3:31 teaches that we should keep the law, even though we are no longer under the law. Romans 3:31, “Do we then make void the law through faith? God forbid: yea, we establish the law.” God commands His children to “Be ye holy; for I am holy” (1st Peter 1:16). So I am not condoning living in sin, as many critics of the free grace Gospel (i.e., the Lordship Salvation crowd) allege. I am all for holy living. The Holy Bible commands it. God expects it! No believer can thrive in the Christian life while wallowing in the filth from which God saved them. Albeit, even the best Christians who try to live right, still sin each and every day of our life in one way or another. We are ALL sinners! It's not a matter of who has the least sins; but rather, have your sins been washed away by the precious blood of the Lamb of God?
Again, the shameful titled of the book is: “Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned.” The titled should really be changed to, “Shacking Up: The STUPID Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned.” I kindly say “stupid” because no one ought ever encourage living in sin, which the book plainly admits. Yes, shacking up is a sin. I realize that in today's woefully lacking amoral American culture, such sound Bible preaching is ridiculed, mocked and despised. You'll never hear this kind of hard preaching from characters like Pastor Joel Osteen! That is why 70,000 people come to hear Mr. Osteen tickle their ears every Sunday, and tell them how wonderful they are to God, and how they can positively think their way to success. Bologna! In the Greek the word “bologna” means “bologna”!
We Need Hard Preaching Done in God's Love Today!
Millions of young American women today are the mother of a bastard child! I know that is a harsh statement, but it is the kind of truthful preaching that America is woefully lacking these days! Our nation's churches are dead! Our Bible colleges are theological cemeteries, despicable money-grabbing institutions wallowing in their own vomit!
Sexual immorality is happening everywhere today. Where is the hard preaching in our churches? Many churches, in a shameful effort to avoid being controversial and offensive, hide cowardly behind a church covenant that church members are required to recite. They don't preach hard against sin from the pulpit. Kindly, when I attended Harvest Baptist Church on Guam in 2013-2015, we read a church covenant out loud in church that was displayed on two big overhead projectors. In the covenant, you agreed not to drink alcohol or partake of immorality, and so forth. I gladly read the covenant, even though I was not an “official” voted-in member of their Alexandrian cult (they didn't want me), because I love the Lord, and despite my MANY flaws, I am trying to live right by God's grace. Galatians 2:20, “I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.” So when I say that I am trying to live right “by God's grace,” I mean that literally. As you just read, and what a glorious truth it is, we live the Christian life “BY FAITH.” We cannot live the Christian life in our own righteousness, just as we could not save ourselves by keeping the law of God. It is the indwelling blessed Holy Spirit, who produces the “fruit” of righteousness in us as God's children...
Galatians 5:22-26, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.”
Nevertheless, no believer walks in the Spirit all the time. Sometimes we walk in the flesh instead. The apostle Paul struggled to live right too (Romans 7:14-25). Every believer is either trying to live right, or else they don't care and are willfully living in sin (in the flesh). We see the latter situation in 1st Corinthians 5:1-5, concerning the man and woman living in fornication in the church at Corinth. If the pastor of the church had done his job faithfully beforehand, without Paul having to rebuke him with a letter (i.e., the Epistle of 1st Corinthians), then this troublesome situation never would have occurred. The couple were living in open fornication in the church, and everybody knew about their situation, and it was accepted in the church. Paul even heard about the matter from another city. Open sin ought NEVER be tolerated and accepted in any church. We need hard preaching today! You show me a church lacking hard preaching against sin, and lacking the remedy of the easy Gospel of free grace, and I'll show you a church with empty alters at invitation time!
The problem is that pastors are no longer preachers! In his wonderful classic book called, “Power Through Prayer,” Evangelist E.M. Bounds (1835-1913) states, “The man makes the preacher; God makes the man!” Men are not men nowadays! They are wimps! Bible colleges all across America are producing pansies in the pulpit, spineless jellyfish who are indifferent toward the corrupting of God's Word, lackadaisical toward the perversion of the free Gospel of grace, and pacifists when it comes to taking a stand against anything!
One jellyfish Baptist pastor on Guam accused me of being “obsessed” with the Bible issue debate. What he was really saying is that I should merely express my unpopular truthful opinion about the corrupt modern Bible versions just once, and then put it on the shelf like a library book, and let the issue rest, lest I cause controversy. That rascal ought not be permitted behind any church pulpit. Wimps like him, who collect a paycheck while playing the game of religion, are the reason why America is going rot! Somebody's got to care! Somebody's got to get upset! Somebody's got to “MAKE SOME NOISE!,” as Malcolm X wisely taught his followers (albeit they were followers of the Black Muslim cult).
All I keep hearing from the shameful ecumenical crowd is that Guam is a “different culture,” and locals here won't tolerate hard preaching. I was rebuked at Harvest Baptist Church by their pastors in 2014, for sharing sermons by Evangelist Phil Kidd, Pastor Danny Castle, Dr. Jack Hyles and Pastor Max Younce. God knows my heart, that I love the truth and one of the great joys of my life is sharing THE TRUTH with everyone I come in contact with. For that righteous crime I was rebuked, shunned and banned from returning to Harvest Baptist Church. I know how the apostle Paul felt, when he said, Galatians 4:16, “Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth?” I will never stop proclaiming THE TRUTH, by God's grace, as long as I have the privilege.
The Holy Bible Warns That Fornicators WON'T Be Permitted into Heaven!
1st Corinthians 6:9-11, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.” Carefully notice that verse 11 says, “BUT YE ARE WASHED.” If you are a born-again Christian, then your sins (all of them, past, present and future) have been washed away. So if you are guilty of the sin of fornication, adultery or any other sexually immoral sins, God doesn't see those sins if you are His child, He only sees the imputed righteousness of His only begotten Son (Romans 4:5-6; Philippians 3:9; 2nd Corinthians 5:21; Romans 10:3-4 - All quotes ONLY from the trustworthy, King James Bible).
Contrary to what many Americans foolishly think today, particularly the younger generation, shacking up is a serious matter to God. Just because everyone is doing it doesn't make is acceptable. Proverbs 16:5, “Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD: though hand join in hand, he shall not be unpunished.” Pride is a cancer to any society. Americans are extremely proud, so arrogant that women dress immodestly (exposing their thighs), Americans fornicate and conceive children, and then instead of becoming responsible and loving parents (the right thing to do), they MURDER their children by abortion. TALK ABOUT WICKED PRIDE!!!
Please, if you have messed up your life already, I am NOT berating you, God forbid. I would NEVER do that to anyone. The focus of my article is to hopefully help prevent someone, a young person, from walking in the counsel of the ungodly. Stacy and Wynne Whitman are giving ungodly counsel, by teaching young women how to fornicate without getting burned. The very idea is wicked, in the worst sense of the term! Psalms 1:1, “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.” If you want to prosper, in God's sight, then you must heed godly counsel. Fornication is a sin, and it is even more sinful to plan to sin by writing a book about it—buying that book, reading that book, and then intentionally committing that sin—which is now EVIL, because you planned it all along! The very idea of, “Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned,” is as evil as Satan is evil! What a horrible book!!!
Americans are stinking proud. Just as the stench of the wickedness in the ungodly cities of Sodom and Gomorrah reached Heaven's gates, and God heard the “cry” (Genesis 18:20) of the victims of their wickedness, so also does America's sins offend Heaven's hosts, tempting the wrath and judgment of God, which I believe is what Revelation 18 is all about (our future destruction in one hour by fiery nuclear holocaust!). Read what God's inspired Word warns about sexual immorality of all forms (Woe unto our nation!)...
Colossians 3:1-6, “If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory. Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience.”
No one has a God-given right to promote the sin of fornication!!! The Holy Bible has MUCH to say in prohibition of having physical intimacy outside of a legal marriage commitment. This includes not only carnal knowledge, but all sexual activity. It is sinful when unmarried people kiss each other on a Hollywood set. It is a sin to curse in the Lord's name while following a movie script as an actor. It is a sin to pretend (or not pretend) to have physical intimacy, between unmarried persons. Romans 1:32, “Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.” Truly, the love of money is the root of all evil. We are living in times more wicked than Sodom and Gomorrah today. It is hard to comprehend that the U.S. government since June of 2015 permits homosexuals to legally marry and legally adopt children. That is child abuse!
And again, lest you missed my point that I mentioned earlier, if your sins have been cleansed in the precious blood of Jesus Christ, then you will still be allowed into Heaven when you die. The reason why is because you are now clothed in a white robe of God's righteousness, which is through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ! Philippians 3:9, “And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith.”
Ladies, Get Legally Married First, Or Just Say “No” to That Male!
Men get married, males shack up! Americans like to make their OWN rules and live by them. Isaiah 47:10, “For thou hast trusted in thy wickedness: thou hast said, None seeth me. Thy wisdom and thy knowledge, it hath perverted thee; and thou hast said in thine heart, I am, and none else beside me.” We read in the book of Judges that “every man did that which WAS RIGHT in his own eyes” (Judges 17:6). Carefully notice that the people wanted to do what was “RIGHT,” but they wanted to decide what was good or evil. ONLY GOD has a right to tell mankind what is RIGHT! God authored the Holy Bible to show us what is GOOD OR EVIL.
When a woman today says, “I'm not in a 'relationship' right now,” what she's really saying is: “I've temporarily taken a break from my whoring around!” I can tell you story after story, of young women who have ruined their lives by giving away their most prized possession, their virginity and honor, to some bum who, after getting the thrill he wanted, abandoned her! It is a story all too common! If that is you, may I kindly say in Christian love, I am sorry that that happened to you. Yes, you did it to yourself! You sinned! You were stupid! Sin is always STUPID! And we've all been stupid sometimes, haven't we? Yes, you have you dirty dog you, according to God's Word! 1st John 1:10, “If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.” We are ALL woeful sinners.
I don't like to think of anyone in terms of being “stupid.” I picked this word for the title of my article only because it is the antonym of the word smart which Stacy and Wynne Whitman used to name their ungodly book, “Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned.” The book tries to prepare young women how to protect themselves going into a non-marital relationship, which is VERY foolish. It is a game of Russian Roulette, playing with fire! Sex is like fire in a fireplace. In its proper place, fire will warm a home and be a wonderful blessing; but if you get that fire outside of where it belongs, IT WILL BURN YOUR LIFE UP!!!
The biggest LIE you'll ever hear from a boy is that, “If you love me you'll be intimate with me!” No, if he really loves you, he'll respect you by waiting through a proper courtship period, and then set a date a few months out at least, to get legally married. I say legally because a lot of people are getting married outside of the law, and their marriages have no legal force. In such a case, a tired husband (or wife) can simply walk away at any time without recourse.
Also, a cheating husband can bring sexually transmitted diseases into the marriage bed, which is commonplace today. Without a legal marriage, there is no way of legally enforcing your right to a disease-free marriage. As you can imagine for me as an internet preacher, I hear many tragic stories from my web visitors of marriage problems. One of the most common things that I am asked about is what to do about a cheating boyfriend who is being unfaithful, playing around as a whoremonger. Since there is no legally-binding marriage, there is little that can be done. I always encourage people to “GET MARRIED,” as the Holy Bible teaches in 1st Corinthians 7:1-2, “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” Could the Scriptures be any plainer? I think not!
I realize that a marriage license is often viewed as being merely a piece of paper, but it represents the name of the law, and it is truly much more than just a piece of paper! It is the people who “shack up” instead of getting married, who usually diminish the value of a marriage license. Think about that! In a proper marriage, the law CAN BE enforced! In the state of North Carolina you can sue an unfaithful spouse! I think that is needful in today's wicked society. Hollywood should be held accountable, and liable for lawsuits as well, for doing everything in their power to promote sexual immorality in the United States. They are very evil people in Heaven's sight. These are truly “perilous times” as the Scriptures foretold in 2nd Timothy 3:1-7. I love everyone and am not scolding or thinking about anybody as I write this article. I am simply refuting this horrible book teaching women how to properly “shack up!” That is terrible!
(a red-hot MP3 sermon by Pastor Steven L. Anderson against the awful sins of fornication and adultery)
Jesus Christ's Payment On the Cross for OUR SINS At Calvary Covers it All!
And may I kindly say as your friend, if you are guilty of sexual immorality, that God offers forgiveness to you! One of the most beautiful MP3 sermons I have ever heard, by Pastor Jack Hyles, is called, “It Doesn't matter How You Got There?” It doesn't matter if you are the heartbroken parent of a grown child who has ruined their life in sinful shame, or if you are the young person who sinned, CALVARY COVERS IT ALL!!! Amen! praise the Lord! Jesus Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
I am listening to one of my favorite preachers, Pastor Danny Castle, as I type this article. Brother Danny is preaching the sermon titled, “Faith That WORKS!” Here are a few quotes from the sermon...
The greatness of our fears shows the littleness of our faith! Doubt sees the obstacles, faith sees the way. Doubt questions, “Who believes?”; Faith answers, “I.” Faith keeps the man who KEEPS THE FAITH!!!!!!!
Aren't those beautiful truths. I love Brother Danny for what the Lord is accomplishing through him! My dear friend, God loves you and wants the absolute BEST for you! If you are a young woman, I beg you to get married first before you give your virginity to some lustful boy—a boy whom you are fully convinced loves you and will marry you someday—but statistically, he very likely WON'T! In a liberal-minded place like the United States today (since the moral breakdown of the 1960's), and in view of the unfair court system which is biased against men, marriage is a frightening prospect for most men today! Still, marriage is God's way, the right way!
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First, it is
ridiculed, second, it is violently opposed, third,
it is accepted as self-evident."
—Arthur Schopenhauer, German Philosopher (1788-1860)
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