How To Build Your Man Ladies

By David J. Stewart

Proverbs 27:21, “As the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so is a man to his praise.”

       Men love to be bragged-on ladies! Be very careful about bragging on a man who is not your husband, because he may fall in love with you quickly. And if you want to win a man's heart, the Bible says that a man is to his praise as is silver in the fining pot. What does that mean?

A fining pot is used to purify metals. When heated to a molten state, metals separate. Less dense metals float to the top, while denser metals sink to the bottom of the fining pot. Hence, the Bible teaches that praise is a powerful tool that can bring out positive qualities in a person if you praise that quality! This is good stuff!

A once heard a preacher say that, “Five minutes of praise will do more for a person than a lifetime of criticism!” That is very, very, true!

Go ahead and brag on that child in your Sunday School class who shows up sporadically once in a while, and watch how they start coming regularly to get that praise!

Notice in the messages to the churches of Asia Minor (the nation of Turkey today) in Revelation 2:1-3:22 that the Lord begins by praising each church before He scolds them. Jesus had something good to say about every church except the last one, the Laodicean church. There is much debate as to whether these seven churches also refer to different ages throughout history. I personally believe that they are, but I would not argue the point. The belief that these churches are representative of different periods of time is called DISPENSATIONALISM!

Everyone loves to be praised for honest qualities. We are created in God's own image, and God loves His praise. In fact Isaiah 42:8 warns that God will NOT share His glory and praise with ANYONE. God is a jealous God! Exodus 34:14 says that God's name is JEALOUS! God is worthy of praise. We shouldn't seek praises from men, but from God (John 12:43).

Now, God is worthy of all our honor, praise and glory at all times, because He is holy (perfect) and never can lie. But we humans aren't so perfect. We're used to hearing criticism and slander when we do less than our best or sin.

Yet, everybody (even a total loser) has at least something that is worthy of our genuine heartfelt praise. Find out what quality that you want to see developed in your friend or loved one, and then focus on using positive reinforcing language to help that person want to attain to that praise, so they can continue to receive more admiration and praise. We all like to be praised, which is good if it's for something true.

Submission And Praise

1st Peter 3:1, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives”

This short article may seem over simplistic. Granted, there are many aspects of building your husband ladies, but the most effective way to build your husband is by being SUBMISSIVE and doing what he expects of you. I hear so many feminist women running to extremes, using hypothetical situations to justify their rebellion. They attempt to sinfully justify abortion with the infamous back-alley coat-hanger incident (which has never been medically documented). Rebellious women create hypothetical situations, asking if they should obey a drunken husband. A godly woman wouldn't even go there and push the limit. Eve told the serpent that God said they couldn't even touch the forbidden fruit. However, God only said not to eat the fruit. Eve magnified her restrictions and began to distort what God had said.

A wife who obeys her not so perfect husband is more likely to win him over to Christ than the preacher knocking at the door with a Bible in his hand. This is exactly what 1st Peter 3:1 teaches. An obedient wife has more power over her husband than God's Word. Wow! You ladies have more influence over your man than God. Don't believe it? Consider Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. When Eve sinned, she offered Adam of the forbidden fruit “AND HE DID EAT” (Genesis 3:6).

Never underestimate your influence ladies over your husband. There's nothing worse than a rebellious wife who causes constant grief and embarrassment for her husband. Proverbs 12:4, “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” When a wife files for divorce, she maketh her husband ashamed. When a wife drags strangers, family and neighbors into their marriage problems, it makes the husband ashamed. Most American women are a big embarrassment to our country.

Women today have been indoctrinated by feminists to hold their husbands to unrealistic expectations, intolerant of his imperfections and ready to divorce and rebel on a whim. Women are no longer women in America. They've become men. Women in 2014 dress, talk, think and behave like masculine men. Instead of staying at home as mothers and homemakers, they're pursuing careers and doing man's work. Lesbianism is increasing, as women divorce and fail in their relationships with men because of their rebellious attitudes. Women in the United States murder their babies in their womb, abandon their marriage vows and destroy their own families in the name of women's liberation. They have the childish attitude, “Nobody is going to treat me like that!” Yet Jesus was willing to be beaten, spit upon and crucified for YOU! Sadly, women today in America behave like spoiled brats! God hates rebellion!

No wife who maintains a rebellious attitude toward her husband will be married for long. The root problem is not walking with God. If a woman loves God, then she'll love her husband. In Hebrews 13:5 the Lord promises NEVER to leave nor abandon us. Hebrews 13:5, “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” If we walk in the Spirit, then we will not fulfil the lust of the flesh, quitting on our loved ones and filing for divorce. Divorce has become a lucrative $50,000,000,000 racket in America, destroying marriages, lives and families for filthy lucre's sake! DIVORCE CORP (judges play god with people's lives while enriching their friends financially). Truly the love of money is the root of all evil as 1st Timothy 6:10 teaches!

Through PRAISE and SUBMISSION ladies you can build your husband. I realize that there are many difficult situations and sometimes separation is necessary; but divorce ought never be considered. Television portrays divorce and remarriage as such wonderful things, but you're just taking vengeance on your spouse and going from one problematic marriage to another. There are NO perfect marriages! There are NO perfect churches or pastors! Only the Word of God is perfect and Jesus Christ! There's the “HOLY” Spirit and the “HOLY” Bible, but there's no such thing as the “HOLY” church. Your husband is a mere man, a sinful human being, and so are you and I. Feminism views everything from a selfish viewpoint, only considering the wife's happiness, wellbeing and feelings. The Bible tells us in Philippians 2:4-5 to have the MIND OF CHRIST by thinking on the things of OTHERS instead of selfishly thinking about ourselves. Feminism is selfish!!!

Beware of television and satanic cable channels like “WE” (women's entertainment). It ought to be called the “WEIRDO EXPRESS.” WE will take you ladies on the fast-lane to becoming a selfish weirdo filled with hate, criticism and whoredoms. WE regularly portrays men as weak, stupid and criminal-minded. WE instills a spirit of distrust, paranoia and suspicion in female viewers toward men in general. The Lord hates the WE network for indoctrinating women to distrust men, which is Satan's way of getting women to distrust God and God-ordained masculine authority. Read your Bible instead and you'll respect, obey and love your husband instead of spying on him, distrusting him and freaking out when he gets upset with you.

 Ladies Commanded To Love (Be Affectionate) Toward Husbands

There is a very interesting and deliberate truth in the Bible that is often overlooked. When God tells men to “LOVE” their wives, the Greek word is agape; but women are commanded to “LOVE” philandros their husbands. These are two very different word meanings.

Titus 2:4, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.” The word “love” here in Titus 2:4 is philandros and means “fond of man, that is, affectionate as a wife.” This is romantic love, physical affection, loving a man as a wife should.

However, Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” The word “love” here in Ephesians 5:25 is agapaō and means “to love (in a social or moral sense).” This is God's unconditional love, that is, a man loving his wife because of who he is, and not for who she is. This is not romantic love; but rather, love based upon the unchanging principles of God's Word.

The reason why God commands men and women to love in different ways is because a man by nature has physical affection toward a woman, but women do not toward men. That is, men are aroused by sight, but not women. A woman has to make herself be affectionate toward her husband even when she doesn't feel it. The feelings follow afterward.

Likewise, women naturally love their husbands, not for who he is, but for who she is; but men by nature love a wife for who she is. So a man has to force himself to love his own wife as God commands him to, loving her based upon the principles of God's Word and God's love.

A wise wife will be affectionate toward her husband. One of the major causes of divorce is romance problems, because the wife isn't interested in physical relations, won't work at it and doesn't care. It is sad to think that prostitute will give her all sexually, holding nothing back for a complete stranger who pays her; whereas a man's wife denies him the same affection when he faithfully goes to work day-by-day to provide a roof over her head, food on her table and shoes on her feet, et cetera. A husband needs and deserves an affectionate wife! It's all a mindset ladies. You can be affectionate if you want to be. Your husband will love you for it! If you don't know how to love your man, then ask some women who do and they will teach you! If you love your husband, then you will become an expert at being affectionate and making him happy.

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